your experiences are relevant

As a 22-year-old, I’d like to believe I’m exactly where I need to be, which by some standards, I guess I am, but by others, I’m probably not. This rant is for those people who justify everything they do*insert emoji with girl raising hand.*

I went to community college right after high school and I remember being very embarrassed to tell anyone. When I did let people know I wasn’t going away, the admission  would be quickly followed by “…but I’m only going for two years and then I’m transferring to a four-year school” or “I’m just going to save money”…honestly, no one cared either way, but because I thought they did, I made these horrible excuses to justify myself. They were all valid reasons for staying home,  but it was completely unnecessary information I was giving them.

Here I am four years later with an Associate Degree in Humanities (which, to be honest, I’m not even sure I know what that means) and lots and lots of bills (well, a lot for a girl in her early 20s).

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Shannon and her sisters, Maeghan and Erin

So why am I telling you all this? I don’t think you should be ashamed of yourself, of your experiences. I’m constantly asked if I regret not getting “the college experience”  the truth is I don’t. I don’t regret one decision I have made in the last four years, because I know that I’m where I’m supposed to be. I could sit around and feel sorry for myself and focus my energy on all of the things I haven’t accomplished yet, or I can focus on the things I have, the things I am proud of. I know how tough it is to balance real life, school, work, a dog, trying to save money, paying bills. Maybe, for me, it’s like when restaurants have a soft opening…maybe my adult life is having a soft open. I know my older sister left school and was smacked in the face with enormous loan payments and a race to find a job in her major or anything she could make money doing (unpaid internships are cruel), but my experience is different and I’m not ashamed of it. By no means am I saying people who work part-time and go to school are better off, but I am saying that you should never justify your life to anyone. My older sister is extremely proud of her experience at college: she was V.P. of her graduating class at Ithaca College and she’s literally the most responsible, compassionate, and caring person I know.  That’s all because of her experiences.

Be grateful for everything you have and be grateful for everything you experience, no matter what stigmas you believe are attached to them.

unnamed-2Shannon Willis says: I enjoy playing guitar, my perfect dog, and making people laugh. I teach ballet and tap part-time and am a full-time café worker. Aspiring to perform in front of people, but for now stage fright is too real. I love music… but not screamo or heavy metal. Also, I have an identical twin.

2 thoughts on “your experiences are relevant

  1. Anonymous says:

    This was amazing, you are amazing, and you should be proud of everything you have accomplished. You are going to do great things ❤

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